Tuesday, July 22

Asking money from God?

I don't believe in god. But if I do, I would ask god for things I have no control over. I would ask god to keep my family and friends to be safe and sound, strong and healthy, happy and enjoying life. Sometimes I would ask god to take the rain away and give me a sunny day, or let me do well in an exam. I won't ask god for money. But would anyone do that?

My relatives do. Some of us chinese pray to many deities, gods and goddesses. Different gods are in charge to different things. For example in my old house, we had four gods: The three main buddhas, a 'de zhu gong' (the god in charge of the land), a kitchen god and another one outside the house (I think its the god in charge of guarding the house). These are the standard altars of a chinese family home in Malaysia. But other people have more.

Many of my relatives are very obsessed with money, and very superstitious. Bad combination. They spend lots of time, effort and money praying to gods in charge of finance, so they can be rewarded with more financial luck. I remember once when I was in primary school, I followed one of my aunt to a temple to ask for a lottery number. The ritual was weird, involving throwing coins, rubbing the idol's face with taufu, writing stuff with chinese brush then burning it and bringing the ash home to mix with tea and drink it. I didn't remember how did the miracle numbers pop out and had my aunt won. But I remember my aunt putting quite a big sum of money into an angpau (red packet) for the old lady performing the ritual. Very good profession to go into for anyone who wants to earn lots of money by performing peculiar entertainment since my aunt couldn't be the only greedy person in the world.

My family, being quite middle class (we get what we want often but we are not spoilt) is naturally quite disgusted with my relatives' behaviour. I sometimes wonder what makes them so obsessed with money. Perhaps it's their poor upbringing. My grandmother had 12 children and she was a single mum who brought up all of them by tailoring. My mum told me they can only afford to eat chicken once or twice a month. Only one out of the 12 siblings made it to university. Many of the elder ones had to drop out of school early to help generate income for the family. Since they are unskilled by the time my aunts and uncles were married, their jobs bring them just about suffient income to pay for food, shelter and other basic stuff. It's really hard for them to fork out extra money for say, university fees. But I have seen poor people who are content with their simple life. Why can't my relatives be a little happier about who they are now? Are they just trying too hard to get out of the vicious circle of poverty, to the point that they lose sight of everything else in the world, that they have to ask for money from god? My aunt said people like me, who had sailed through life smoothly, would never understand their predicament. Perhaps I never would.

2 comments:

Wan Cheng said...

They always say we wouldn't understand their predicament because we never faced much hardship in life. I think that they wouldn't understand ours too.
But there's no right and wrong in what to think. We can only wait for them to realise what's the meaning of the things they seek, and learn to be grateful for what's already there for them.

Yee Yen said...

One of the patients told me yesterday: wherever you go you'll find good people and bad people and many in between. I spent half the time having 'empty talks' to patients, but sometimes they do have gems of wisdom.