Stop moaning - Make it happen

I am angry at my little sister. Angry at her immaturity. Angry that she never takes advice. She just moans and expects people to listen to her going on and on about how other people are always the ones with bad ideas, and no one listens to her brilliant points.


All I was doing was to try to make her realize that she's not the only one in the world fazed with problems. She said her friend suggested a car wash project for her interact club, and immediately she thought of so many problems that could prevent it from happening. I told her to list down all the problems - and when she finished, I thought all the problem were so easily resolved that it shouldn't have been an excuse for rejecting the idea altogether. A leader is one with a vision, and the leader with inspire other to work towards the vision, gathering the support of her fellow teammates and teachers. Someone who only dampens the team spirit by dwelling on obstracles but offer no solution has no place in a team, and certainly is not fit to be a leader of any sort. A car wash project is amongst the easiest way to fund raise at school level, and if even that cannot happen in her opinion, and wouldn't take people's advice to make it happen, I can only think that she is either too arrogant herself or simply incompetent. At that point, she started to go:


'Yes yes yes you are right, you are right, no need to talk anymore, i don't want to hear anything from you anymore... ahh yes yes yes you are right you are right.' She is always like that, silencing others and refusing to listen.


Talking to her nowadays is terribly frustrating. I just cannot get through to her at all. She is having some kind of identity crisis that she just keeps befriending Cheng and ignores me all together. I recognize such behaviour. Stray, insecure kids in school without a gang would try and own a friend like that so that she has a bestfriend, and would get angry when the other person doesn't return the loyalty, or doesn't regard her as the best friend and would get jealous when over time her 'best friend' finds another close company to replace her. Whatever I said is wrong and does not even deserve an answer or an acknowledgement. That is rudeness, that is. Her behaviour is annoying me so much so that I am thinking of moving out. And that she thinks she is better than others and she is able to lead are indeed the most naive ideas. Pity, at such tender age that her minds are closed. And I certainly hope she overcome her own arrogance and learn from others, even from those she regards not as clever as her, with a sense of humility.


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